Co-sleeping. Obviously a huge divider of opinions, but it can be done safely, in my opinion. It just hasn’t stood the test of time for us because apparently, we both like our own space.
This time last year I was about to enter 2017 fearful and alone, with the exception of your tiny beating heart and kicking legs.
The Christmas lights were switched on at the Bargate this evening by Southampton hero Greg Gilbert, Wave 105 DJ Mark Collins and the Mayor of Southampton, Councillor Les Harris.
I’m gradually building a little library for my seven-month-old baby. We have upwards of fifteen books, ranging from the simple one word per page buggy books to the longer form, illustrated storybooks with important morals about kindness, fearlessness and so on. What we didn’t have, before now, was a book explaining why mummy and daddy are separated.
I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve heard and read about the importance of establishing a routine for your baby early. “Children thrive on routines,” everyone seems to agree. “Get your baby into a routine from three month/two months/six weeks,” they say. “Read Gina Ford’s Contented Little Baby Book,” advised one well-meaning mum. “At the very least act out a bedtime routine,” I was told by the internet. “Do Bath, Book, Bed in the evenings.”
The last six or so months have been the start of something incredible. They’ve flown past, and barely a day goes by without someone with older children telling me to cherish this time because it’s over so fast. I don’t want to miss a second of these babyhood days, but then I think of how much you’re missing out on.
Since becoming a single mum six months ago I’ve reached a state of acceptance within myself. That hasn’t happened without first visiting feelings of guilt and shame though. Were they put there by others or myself? Either way, I feel there’s a lot of work still to be done on society’s attitudes towards single parents.